Not to get too philosophical but I think many of us live our lives to other people's expectations, yes I probably fell in to that trap. I can honestly say that since retiring early last year, even under the circumstance of needing to care for the wife I have never been happier.
I have no expectation of what the day will bring, every day is different, some busy, some relaxed but now we march to our own drum. No longer are we tied to any particular day to do things, if we don't feel up to it, we let it slide, tomorrow is another day. Any major projects don't need to be rushed into a weekend or holidays.
All the little tasks which were often left now get done, we were very house proud but with different priorities now if the place gets a little messy and someone is coming by, so be it, we have come to learn it's a home not a house.
We are lucky to have supportive family and friends who know that there will be occasions we can't make functions or just don't want to catch up, some days it's just to taxing for the wife.
We all have family and friends who have been touched by illness and poor health and all we can do is offer support and empathy and be tolerant of any decisions they make, as they are often made in their best interests.
Celebrate life to the best of your abilities and try and remain positive but if you need help, ask, someone will help even if just to offer an ear so you can get it all off your chest.
If finances or circumstances dictate your need to work I hope you are one day able to achieve your goals and enjoy the fruits of your hard earned labours.