Hey Bumbags, I feel for you,
Kato was a bit lazy around 11&12 but I think it may have been her "development" hormones, and peer group crap in school
our Miss 10 seems to be the same now (developing), but keep patient and firm, find her passion and maybe use that to turn her around a bit at a time.
Our Miss 10 has shown a great interest in cooking and baking so we are going with that and encouraging her to do it with
her Grandmother and Mum. Then go for the "bakery stand" sales.
We all have different scenario's, but my kids dont get money at all unless it is earned or donated as a gift from the Grandparents or family.
A monthly token into their account of $5.
Kato has a Debit Card that has a maintained $50 for movies or going out, and limited cash, but she is frugal too.
We monitor that via internet banking.
As a kid always got just what I needed, my wife too, my kids are the same - they share their things well to stretch possessions
and experiences. My wife and I also share our own possessions with them for use and teach them to use them properly, but they know the items are ours.
They break or lose something of another persons, there are consequences.
LOL, also Miss 9yrs knows she has to pay me back for the setup of her Hot Dog stand and food, over time as profits permit,
She is cool with that, I let her sweep her transaction account herself this morning, explaining why again, and advised her that she will have to
use the funds from the next Hot Dog sales for her I-Pad even though currently there is more than $1000.00 in her account.
She is focused enough on the prize and trusts me enough to keep her straight.
I must say we have been lucky with all this and our kids so far, and I am preparing for a disaster but not afraid of it.
Have faith Bumbags, it is an awkward time going into the teens.
LOL, Kato is having boyfriend troubles atm, :8 those first love heart strings being pulled, but she is strong and will get through it - I might not :awful: